It's not uncommon for a host family to form a deep bond with
their au pair—and when the program winds down, families often
ask, "Is there a way for them to stay?" Before
we explore what may be possible, it's important to understand
the legal foundation of the au pair program.
The au pair program is part of the U.S. Department of
State's J-1 Exchange Visitor Program. It is designed to foster
cultural exchange by allowing young adults (ages 18–26) to
live with an American family and provide limited childcare in
exchange for room, board, a modest stipend, and the chance to
experience life in the United States. Participants must have a good
command of English, a high school diploma (or equivalent), and pass
a background check. The program is initially granted for 12 months,
with the possibility of a one-time extension of 6, 9, or 12
months—after which the au pair must return home.
