The Loss of the Child's Voice
When a couple is going through a separation or divorce, the
well-being of the children ought to be their first priority. While
many parents may think that they have the best interests of their
children in mind, they themselves are often busy trying to cope
with the emotional and material consequences of a separation or
divorce. Consequently, the voices of their children can
unintentionally become lost in the process. This can leave children
feeling misunderstood or alone in their pain, which can have long
reaching consequences for families.
Given the complicated emotions involved in divorce, some
children may choose not to talk to their parents at all about how
they feel and what they are going through. Others may confide only
in one parent, leaving the other parent in the dark, or left to
conclude that the child is being "coached". Sometimes a
child in fact is being coached by one parent about what to
say to the other. Children may
